1.) It starts early.
Technically, you should’ve started mid-way through last January as last year’s resolutions started to crumble. Nonetheless, family dinner on Christmas is a great place to begin. While everyone is going around sharing life updates, you start to feel a niggling sense of inadequacy. What did you even do this year?
This is the spark.
That’s it, you resolve- next year will be different.
2.) While everyone else is sleeping off the tryptophan coma...
(which apparently isn’t even a real thing so perhaps they’re all just exhausted from doing so much this year you lazy bum), you fire up your laptop and make a list of all the things you want to do this year.
- Travel More
- Be less stressed
- Get a promotion… or a better job
- Start dating again.
3.) You look through instagram and facebook for goal-setting events in January.
Should you go to the one with the oracle card reading or the one led by that-guy-on-instagram? You think he’s a life coach… or maybe he’s a personal trainer? Or a holistic nutritionist? You’re actually not too sure what he does for a living but he has 15K followers and posts inspirational quotes so he’s definitely an expert. You click “register”.
4.) At this point, you’re on a roll.
Why stop here? You start reading articles on how to stay organized and end up downloading a new calendar app, a workflow-assistant, and buying a new $80 agenda.
5.) Your phone buzzes
-as you realize the goal-setting course you signed up for has sent you some pre-reading and pre-course work. You have a glance at the PDF files and decide to take a crack at it tomorrow.
6.) The next day, page 1.
You’re working on your 10 year vision. You spend the next few days imagining you- 10 years from now, living in a penthouse apartment in New York. Or wait- maybe you want to own property by the water? It takes you four hours but you finally decide- waterfront property and coastal living. You have two adorable kids, an amazing partner, a dog, and a cat and a three day work week. You have your boss’s boss’s job and you just published a book. You vacationed in Morocco last year and your family is thinking of an African Safari this year.
7.) January 1
-you wake up a little hungover (hey, you’re not 19 anymore). You write the day off. You’ll start again tomorrow.
8.) January 2
- you realize you haven’t had a chance to look at the rest of the pre-workshop PDF. You notice something about setting “S.M.A.R.T” goals. It takes you a day and two coffees but by 5PM that day you have written down:
- Travel twice this year- one international trip to Spain, (May 2018) and one local trip to LA (Nov 2018). You realize you should have started saving already. Minor detail, and you shrug it off.
- Meditate daily by joining a meditation studio. Have a regular membership by end of Jan 2018. You look online- MOMENT seems cool.
- Approach the company about upward movement opportunities by Feb 2018. If your boss is a jerk about it, talk to recruiter friends in March 2018 about other companies.
- Download Bumble and Hinge by Mar 2018 (this gives you enough time to date around before locking someone down for fun summer adventures).
You sit back and admire your list of specific, measurable, action-oriented, realistic, and timely goals. At this rate, you’ll be done by mid-year!
9.) January 9
- Reality. First week back at work. You are three coffees deep and your calendar & workflow apps have over 30 reminders- those little red bubbles haunting you every time you turn on your phone. Work hit you like a tonne of bricks, you haven’t meditated in the last 6 days so you’re feeling super un-chill, and your laptop broke down so you’re shelling out $2500 this weekend. There goes your vacation fund.
10.) Your shiny new agenda comes in
and has already started to gather dust on the corner of your desk. Your calendar app goes off and reminds you of your goal-setting event tonight. You are filled with a sense of dread- there’s no way you can play nice with a room full of cheerful, perfect people. You look at the pile of work ahead of you, the mounting list of reminders in your apps, and you draft a “I’m so sorry to bail!” email.
As you hit send, you sigh and notice the weight of expectations lifted off of your shoulders. No longer will you need to think about vision or S.M.A.R.T goals!! You open up instagram and see a post from the intuitive running the oracle-card goal-setting event.
She has one spot left.
You click “register”.
This post was written by co-founder Anita. (@ineeeda)
“I have definitely been that gal ($80 agenda, yup) and in some ways- I still am. I love the prospect of a shiny new year ahead and the idea of possibility. However, what I’ve found is that living in the future, steals us from the present. So, if you came to this piece hoping to get some Real Advice™- here it is: keep it simple. Try a one-word resolution.
What do you want to create for yourself this year? How do you want to feel? Whatever that word is, check-in throughout the year and reflect on it whenever you are making large decisions. For example, if you are overworked and your word is leisure- will taking on that extra client be aligned with your word? Your call.
There is no pressure to be anything or be anybody- only openness and a commitment to intention. “